In addition to normal search options like location, personal preferences, and sexual orientation, Sober Singles Date allows people to search for members within their own 12-step program, from AA to NA and more.This allows users to date people who understand the struggles of addiction and the reality of a life in recovery, providing a much-needed resource for single sober adults.
Now that getting loaded and hitting on anyone within a 10-foot radius is no longer an option, dating in sobriety can be tricky.
And while knocking boots with another sober person may seem like an ideal option, going out with someone from a meeting may be a step (or thirteen) towards disaster.
“It’s created by people in recovery for people in recovery.” Shea promises the site—which just launched last month—is also very LGBT-friendly: “It’s hard enough to meet somebody in recovery if you’re straight, but trying to meet someone in recovery if you’re gay or transgender, where are you going to go?
” The site is also unique in that unlike major dating sites like or e Harmony, users can see everyone else’s profiles—not just the ones a computer has deemed compatible with their interests.
I mean does this idea of a 12-step dating site sound like a "sane" idea? How many lead stories have you heard where an ex-husband moves in with the ex-wife and her new boyfriend because the probation department needed the ex-husband to have some kind of "responsible" person without a criminal record vouch for him.
Lord have mercy, I'm deathly afraid of what kinds of crazy issues will come out of it. Lordy all the stories of ex-wives and husbands and new husbands and wives, and boyfriends and girlfriends getting together and comparing notes - then they get together and play cards on Friday nights.I've often wondered if there would be much of a demand for an 12 Step Dating website, where singles in 12 Step programs could meet up with other 12 Step singles. When you think about at all the ways that singles typically meet; work, through friends and family, other online dating sites, and the infamous bar scene...well, you never really know what the drinking habits of a potential suitor might be (except for the bar scene and I know for certain that I'm not going down that road! For me to stay sober, I know that I wouldn't ever want to have a a dating or romantic relationship with a drinker again..if they weren't an alcoholic. I know that down the road when I will be more interested in getting back into the dating world, I will definitely only want to get involved with a non-drinker.I think knowing on the front-end that someone is living sober and has/is working the steps would take that concern away from me and allow me to be more open and hopeful with the potential of the relationship.It would also be comforting for me to know that if I were to become involved with a fellow recovering alcoholic that he would understands the struggles and the work involved in living sober and it seems like having a partner in the program would make it so much better than working the program on your own! Kelly There are a couple of Recovery Singles sites out there, but I haven't joined.The site respects the fact that most 12-step programs advise their members to refrain from dating in their first year of recovery so that they can focus on themselves.